Helping In-laws to Convert to Islam
I'm marrying a man who is going to convert to Islam after so much study, yet he says: "I have studied not more than 5% of Islam." I belong to a noble and respectful religious family which can guide him, but he insists me to live with his family who are Christians. He wants me to guide them so that they can be converted, with me being kind to them. What is my responsibility here?

Living with parents in-law is an issue distinct from helping people to convert to Islam. It is about private life and marriage. Women have the right to choose the place they shall live according to the means of their husband. Please see the following fatwas about this issue:

If you are personally eager to live with your parents in law, it is totally lawful. Yet, you should remember that it is not you but God Who guides people to the straight path. You are responsible for communicating God’s verses to them both verbally and through your attitude.  If they really have the intention to be guided rightly, God would let them find the right path:

“It is not your duty to guide them to a right path, but it is God Who guides the ones who make the right choices to a right path.” (al-Baqarah 2:272)

You do not have to be living in the same house as your parents in-law to show your kindness to them. Living in a separate house while visiting and/or inviting them to your house frequently may sometimes let you behave even more tolerantly and gently to them.  Your kind behavior can really help them to convert to Islam if they are impressed by your attitude. Whoever wants to improve himself/herself, God would allow them and they would.

We know by the Qur’an that the opposite is also valid:

“It is not your concern if he will not improve himself!” (Abasa 80:7)


You must be the best example you can be, but if they do not have the inner willingness to find the right path, then there would be nothing you could do for them.  You might even hear unpleasent words from them, which you should be ready by now:

“You will surely be put to a hard test in the matters of your possessions and lives. You will hear much abuse from those who were given the Book before you and those who place others between themselves and God. If you keep patient by protecting yourselves, do know that this is a matter of strong determination.” (al-E Imran 3:186)

Therefore, we recommend that you do not make your decision corresponding to two people only, but in a way which shall make your life better for yourself and your husband; thus presenting a wonderful example for all Muslims and non-Muslims around you. That way, you can help more people to find the right path than you think you can, inshaAllah.

Facebook'ta PaylaşTwitter'da Paylaş
Date: Mar 2, 2018
Other Fatwas In This Category:
#   Title Date Reads 
1 Relations with Non-Muslims 2011.06.25 3,045
2 What is the situation of a Muslim who has been unfair to a Non-Muslim? 2013.03.14 559
3 Meat of Sacrificials and Non-Muslims 2013.10.06 1,413
4 Helping In-laws to Convert to Islam 2018.03.02 91
5 Libya Situation 2011.04.21 569
6 Can we cooperate with Jews and Christians? 2013.03.17 858
7 Places of Worship 2013.12.14 1,308
8 What is the ruling on giving bribe in non-Muslim countries? 2011.08.10 599
9 How does Jews get to be super power although they are cursed? 2013.03.18 1,220
10 Christmas celebration and the food of Christians 2013.12.26 4,755
11 Do we turn to be kafir by gaining European citizenship? 2017.04.14 1,158
12 Is it a sin for Muslims to appreciate Non-Muslims? 2013.03.18 983
13 Thanksgiving food 2013.10.08 1,134
14 Did Christians worship Saint Mary as a God? 2012.01.07 1,097
15 Should a Jew who wants to be a Muslim become a Christian first? 2013.03.22 686
16 Is the Torah altered? 2014.02.08 2,139
17 Is it permitted to go to churches to give condolences? 2012.03.01 901
18 Is it permitted to collect donations of Non-Muslims for Islamic charity? 2013.03.22 615
19 Who Goes to Heaven 2009.09.07 2,324
20 Are Jews cursed from birth? 2012.05.13 1,312
21 The measure of delivering the message 2013.03.22 600
22 Apostates: To Be Killed or Saved? 2014.05.17 1,792
23 How should we behave the Muslims that do not practice Islam? 2012.05.07 861
24 How should we understand the exaltation of Jews above other people? 2013.03.25 631
25 Circumcision by a Non-Muslim 2014.05.17 3,505
26 Can we congratulate non-Muslims on their religious celebration days? 2012.09.21 1,155
27 Is it permitted to kill the enemies of Islam? 2013.03.31 988
28 Meat offered by Non-Muslims 2014.06.26 1,858
29 How should we behave the hypocrites (munafiqeen)? 2012.09.24 1,801
30 Were the older communities ordered to give tax (zakat) like we are? 2013.04.12 650
31 What Is Jihad? 2014.11.28 1,779
32 The responsibility of one who is not informed of the Message 2013.02.04 850
33 Is a convert responsible for the prayers he missed? 2013.05.25 683
34 Paris Attacks 2015.01.13 1,615
35 Is terrorism part of Islam? 2013.02.17 1,504
36 What if Muslims come to power? 2013.06.06 848
37 Yahudiyyun and Haadu Words Expressing the Jews in Quran 2016.05.20 3,115
38 What about the missed worship before Islam? 2010.09.25 694
39 Voting for a Non-Muslim 2012.08.17 4,472
40 Spouses of Different Religions 2016.11.08 5,016
41 Are people born to non-Muslim parents unlucky? 2013.03.02 988
42 The Revival of Jews in Quran 2013.06.17 844
43 Muslim’s Response to Blasphemy 2017.07.28 508
44 Does Islam provide freedom of religion? 2013.03.04 855
45 Fish caught by Non-Muslims 2013.07.22 1,499
46 Pertinence of Punishment to the Crime in Sharia Law 2018.01.11 351
47 Is Islam a religion of war, or peace? 2013.03.05 1,386
48 Prohibition of Non-Muslims from Mecca 2013.09.14 4,098
49 Murders of ISIS and Captives of Banu Qurayza 2018.02.20 162