The Glorified Allah does not permit men to beat their wives. This action is considered as ZULM –Cruelty and an evil deed.
Only under strict conditions, the man can punish his wife. Men are protectors of women; just like the state being the protector of its citizens. Under some specific conditions, men are allowed and responsible for punishing their wives just like the state punishes the citizens for certain unlawful acts. These conditions have been clarified by verses and narrations.
The Glorified Allah commands:
The men who submit (Muslim men) and the women who submit (Muslim women), and the believing men and the believing women, and the obeying men and the obeying women…” (Al-Ahzab/The Allies 33:35)
Why did not the believing men and the believing women, when you heard of it, think well of their own people, and say: ‘This is a manifest calumny’?
“If a woman worries of a deception or an aversion from her husband, it is not wrong for them to reconcile with one another (by compromising on their rights), for the reconciliation is better, and (because) the human soul is always prone to selfishness. So do good and guard yourselves (against evil), Allah is all aware of what you do.” (4:128)
The word ’hawf’ translated as ‘worry’ signifies the negative expectation somebody finds himself in due to concrete or abstract indications. The worry for the women which is mentioned in 4:34, is the same negative expectation that arises due to an abstract belief or of a concrete piece of knowledge. When a woman invites her house a stranger (man) her husband does not want to, an abstract indication to her desire for another man emerges on her husband’s mind. In such a case the husband warns her. If she does not mind, he leaves her alone in bed in order to stand clear of a possible illicit pregnancy. If she still does not pay attention, he strikes her. The strike stands for a warning of the punishment of adultery which is stated in the 2nd verse of chapter Nur as “a hundred flogs in sight of the public”. That’s why, striking can only be done to the back of the woman. If she gives up on her attitude, he cannot seek another way against her.